It sounds too good to be true right? Kind of like those infomercials on TV that promise you’ll lose some ridiculous amount of weight in practically no time. So how can there be one thing that allows us to get the most out of anything?
The truth is there is, and chances are you’ve heard this tool before or at least some derivation of it. I can’t take credit for it, as I read about it last night before bed while reading part of Ryan Holiday’s “The Obstacle is the Way.”
So what is it?
“..loving whatever happens to us and facing it with unfailing cheerfulness.”
– Ryan Holiday, The Obstacle is the Way.
Seriously, without getting to woo woo, think about it.
There are so many circumstances in life that are out of our control, but most of us probably spend so much time, energy, and emotion either trying to control them, worry about them, or not accepting them that we miss out on infinite amount of opportunities. I remember attending my brother’s high school graduation back in 2008 and forgive me for not remembering the commencement speaker but I do remember what he said. His single most important piece of advice for the graduating class was this:
“Control the things you can and the rest will take care of itself.”
Going back to the number one tool, loving whatever happens to us. That can be hard right? Losing someone or something dear to us, changing jobs, getting sick, you name it, but often times, these things are out of our control. God, the Universe, Higher Power, whatever you chose to relate to, they have more control then we ever will.
However, when we take ownership of our situation and begin to fall in love with life wherever we are, being cheerful, spreading joy we will be more open to the opportunities in front of us.
This isn’t saying just let life happen to us, no, not at all. What it is saying, is exactly what that commencement speaker said, control what we can.
Life will continue to happen, but how we see it, love it, and approach it will determine how our journey on this earth will go.
The more we can step back and regain this perspective as we go through our day-to-day lives we can start to see the beauty in all life has to offer, even when we are faced with tough situations.
Love whatever happens to us. Love the lessons. Love the situation. Love the opportunity to grow. And face all of it, each part of it, with unfailing cheerfulness – find it within you to flip the perspective, even when it’s hard.
This mindset shift probably won’t happen overnight, it takes practice, just like any skill set does. As you start to embrace this perspective, watch things start to transform.
Have a wonderful day and start to your week!