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The vehicle to success.

January 18, 2017

I can't say I had planned on writing an article about a car ... but here I am.


So yesterday I was standing in line at the Florida DMV. I arrived after this morning's gym session and of course a Starbucks run. I pulled in around 7:06 and it opens at 8:15. There were already about 50 people in front of me. I would venture to say usually I would be annoyed at this. I had a venti coffee in hand, a good book, and my lap. And after all I was waiting to officially register my recent purchase.

This car. So I moved down from D.C. to South Florida this past August. I chose my location down here based on the proximity to the beach, walkability, and it's resemblance to Old Town, Alexandria. After a about a month of walking to Starbucks, the beach, and the grocery store my new world began to seem small. And as much as I love working online, nothing can replace human interaction. And as a heads up, there is no metro in south Florida J. For those of you that know me, you know I am pretty social. So the minimal interaction with people day to day was starting to take a toll. I could tell I was feeling lonely, sad, and somewhat depressed.

I started questioning every move I made. Why did I take this risk, this leap of faith? Why did I leave my community and network that I spent years building? Why did I chose to leave my friends, relationship, and comfort zone behind.

While home over the holidays, I went to breakfast with my dad and we had a good conversation. I opened up about my insecurities. He said to me, "Kel, I really think it would make a difference by having a car. You have only been there a few months. You haven't given it a chance." I knew he was right. Coming from a city where a car can be more of a hassle than a help, I wasn't used to relying on one, not to mention I've never had to buy one or lease one or deal with one. The last one I had was a company-sponsored vehicle and it was taken care of. I wasn’t keen on leasing a car because I have no idea how long I will be in one spot, so didn’t want to get tied down. And wasn’t exactly thrilled about a car payment, or where to even start with buying a car. Welcome to #adulting in a whole new world.

My sister suggested I put a memo on Facebook asking if people knew of anyone selling a car. Within 20 minutes I received a message from a dear friend. Wow, talk about the universe responding. The next thing I know, a few days before Christmas I committed to buying a car, booked a flight from Florida to North Carolina to pick it up, and purchased auto insurance.

This past Thursday I a flight up to New Bern, NC to drive my new ride back to Florida. I couldn't believe this was really happening. The next day I was on the road by 6 am to make the drive down 95 - music up and windows down. I felt like I was finally back, no longer "stuck" in this bubble. I stopped at GNC in Savannah to grab a few protein bars, had an amazing home cooked meal with extend family in Melbourne, and pulled into my new parking spot by 10 pm Friday night.

The first thing I did Saturday morning was sign up at the local gym and it felt like I was finally where I belonged.

I'm not saying the car is a miracle, although, it does feel like it at times. But it has unveiled to me the freedom life brings as well as the power of faith and believing in oneself- even through difficult times. I was ready to give up, I thought I messed up, and wanted to get back to my comfort zone. As I was discussing the idea of moving with a friend, I received a reality check real quick,


“You have a safety net, and they work. If you go back to your net, you will do the same things you have been doing for the last six years. Try something new, see the world.”


#truth – my initial response was, “I’m scared.” But aren’t we all in someway when something is new, outside of our comfort zone, or unfamiliar? It’s like growing pains.


I was a little scared to move. I was a little scared to come back after visiting family and friends. I was a little scared to take the leap and do the whole car thing. But went for it.


For me the car resembles freedom, peace of mind, and embracing the possibilities. A vehicle to success is my metaphor. Reminding me, the best things in life happen, when we:

  • love what is

  • accept reality

  • choose to see by a positive perspective

  • have faith

  • embrace change


I hope you were able to get something out of this piece. And if you are in South Florida, hit me up, I will come scoop you up!





PS taking name suggestions for the car ;) Let me know!




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